SSC Results.   
Jun,18,2010
 

Here is an article I wrote for Mid Day.

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The SSC results are about to be announced and this takes me back to my school days. I remember being petrified of exams, even more petrified of the results. The red lines on my report card were demeaning, disheartening, and most discouraging. How could I face my friends and family? Shame! Broken self-esteem.

I remember I used to have nightmares. In fact, after having put in a distance of more than 20 years between myself and my last exam, I still haven’t managed to escape the cold fear of exams and results. I still wake up with the shivers after a nightmare about going blank in front of a question paper with time running out.

I am sure there many children out there who go through similar emotions and are currently in a state of panic about the impending SSC results. Kids, don’t be afraid. Just chill. All izzz well!

Don’t look upon the SSC Boards as a milestone in your life, it’s just another stone with many miles on it! You have a long way to go and many more important exams to face. Not the school or college exams, but the exams of life. And those are the ones to be prepared for. The mark sheets to look out for are not the ones printed on some paper, but the ones on the faces of the people you love. Those are the mark sheets that matter. Bring a smile on the face of your mother, father, brother, sister, son, daughter, friend, and you have done well in the exam of life.

I remember that the one person who always gave me strong support and encouragement even after bad results was my father. My mom would complain and tell him that I had failed in Marathi or History or something and he would laugh it off and say “What? You failed in only 2 subjects? I always failed in at least 4!” “Don’t worry about exams,” he always said, “just have a good time in school and be honest.” Honesty was always a big one for him. It genuinely never bothered him that I had done badly. And when I look back now I realize that it was probably because of his utter and absolute belief in me, and his strong support, that I grew up with confidence in myself. Had he lost faith in me I would NEVER have been able to reach where I have in life, and achieve what I have.

Parents, there is a strong lesson here for all of us. Tomorrow the SSC results will be out. I want each of you to remember that we need to accept our children as they are. Your child might fail, or get average marks, or might miss by half a percent the result that you may desire, either way, I want you to accept him/her as he/she is. Is the mark sheet more important or is your child more important?

Do not be disappointed with one exam. Life has so much to offer. Each one of us is special. And for each one of us to do well in life we need the encouragement and support of the people who love us, especially our parents. REMEMBER THE MARK SHEET OF LIFE. And this mark sheet has only 3 subjects – love, caring and happiness. Fame, success and money are calculated on some other mark sheet, and they cannot compete with the value of love, caring and happiness. Let us, as parents, not to fail in the exam of life. Remember our face is also a mark sheet, as is the face of our beloved child. Let us see really high scores on each and every face this time!

This exam, no matter what the marks of the child, I want every parent to hug his/her child when they come home with their results. Try it, and see the power of love. See what it did to me when I came home to my father.

This exam I would like teachers and principals to click photos NOT WITH THE TOPPERS but with the students who have not done as well. Reach out not to the toppers but to the ones at the other end. Give them your encouragement and support, they need it much more.

Kids, any problems with your parents, show them TZP and 3i. You have the power to change the world no matter how much you have scored in your exams. The whole wide world is ahead of you to enjoy and contribute to in small and big ways.

By the way, did any of you know what Gandhiji scored in his Matriculation Exams (which is equivalent to our SSC boards today)?

40%.

Now do you believe me?

 
Posted by Aamir Khan at 01:17 AM 1862 Comments  Post Comment
 
 
1862 Comments
 
1842.phanipep
Posted on Jul,31,2010 at 09:48 AM
Hi Aamir,

awesome article. really a message to parents as well as children. I can imagine how much time and thoughts might have taken for you to write this article. I think there is a motivational speaker in you. I'm really happy to see u in this face. I wish I could meet u in person and talk to you so that i can inspire myself from your words. But some wishes never get fulfilled in life. And this could be one. Atleast in my dreams i could imagine this happen. Love you Aamir.

Bye

 
1841.nadfaraz
Posted on Jul,28,2010 at 07:58 PM
hey aamir.. am speecheless.. ur a real gem.. my salutation to ya dear.. May God bless ya and you continue to impress through ur social aspects of ur wrks, writings..
Ur too goo man... All the best in ur life and work..

 
1840.richa0521
Posted on Jul,25,2010 at 10:39 PM
I wish more people got this. Its sad to see people miss out on the message behind movies like 3 Idiots and TZP. I've had so many conversations with people from different walks of life within our Southasian community and all I hear about 3 idiots is that it had awesome comedy...! Its saddening to see how blind we are as a community when it gets to education. I think 3 Idiots and TZP by far have been the most powerful movies in the last few decades!

 
1839.niti24
Posted on Jul,24,2010 at 03:35 AM
gr8 article......i remember my ssc days...though i was acedemically bright but still i alwaz had this pre result jitters.........

 
1838.Sunilosys
Posted on Jul,23,2010 at 11:25 AM
good one...I love reading your blog...

 
1837.rvaibhav01
Posted on Jul,22,2010 at 09:11 AM
Continued...

Somewhere down the line when you take up a task and do not complete it properly, you yourself would feel that feeling of guilt inside you. Koi maa k pait se seekh k nahi aata, but agar seekhne mein bhi hum excuses nikalein aur bolein ki system flawed hai, there is no point learning this way then the system will always remain flawed.
Too heavy an argument! The trailers of PL look great. Your creative genius is really remarkable. Will surely watch the film.

 
1836.rvaibhav01
Posted on Jul,22,2010 at 09:10 AM
Continued...

Somewhere I feel the parents need to optimize between love and strictness. Being strict with a child does not mean that the parents don’t love them. You got the message across to the youth that run after excellence not success and the acknowledgement of the message is the success of your film, signifies that the youth follows you. But somewhere the youth of this country is beginning to find an excuse for not performing. Criticizing the education system is becoming a fashion these days. Some say its start of a revolution. But when you have to clean the system you need to be first part of the system. People who are extraordinarily brilliant can afford to bring in changes and challenge the system like Rancho did in 3i and they should. Poor performers like Farhan and Raju cannot because they do not even have a case.

 
1835.rvaibhav01
Posted on Jul,22,2010 at 09:08 AM
Hi aamir

I agree that parents should bestow love and affection on their child. I too agree with that. But somewhere down the line they have to be strict. If a child does not score marks, one’s parents should not be too strict but that does not mean they should not be strict.
But somewhere down the line the seeds of habits or excellence (not success) are sown in the early stages of life. If a child fails or scores low marks and still his parents do not give a reaction then the child would start taking his/her failures for granted. The child would start getting a feeling that whatever he/she does, it will be pardoned. That should not be the case. True, Love and affection are necessary but as we say in hindi “danda dikhana bhi kabhi kabhi zaroori hota hai”. We have an old story where a thief when on gallows bit his mother and said “If you would have tamed me in my childhood, I wouldn’t have landed up here”.

 
1834.ReenaRao
Posted on Jul,21,2010 at 06:43 AM
Hi
I do agree with this philosophy of yours and to my children I am very liberal and always supportive in what ever they do even going against the wishes of my hubby. I personally feel that it is the duty of the parents to realize the strength and weaknesses of their children. Your movies TZP and 3i have made many parents realize the same and are becoming more liberal in accepting the their children as they are.

 
1833.krunaljn
Posted on Jul,20,2010 at 05:06 PM
Hey Yaar Good Yaar

 
 
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